There are several different styles of parenting that all lead to different ways that children act and deal with situations as they get older. The three big types of parenting styles are tiger parenting, jellyfish parenting, and helicopter parents. Tiger parenting is a very strict and demanding style of parenting that puts a lot of pressure on children to do the best that they possible can at everything. Jellyfish parenting is the opposite of tiger parenting where this style of parenting has little rules, lacks control and overindulge their children. One more type is helicopter parenting, this style is when a parent pays very close attention to a child’s experiences and problems and doesn’t let that child out of their sight. I feel as though the best style of parenting is a combination of these three styles depending on how old the child is. Nevertheless, there are many ways to parent a child depending on the situation the child is in.
Parenting is such a complex web of different ways to parent a child as they grow up that there is not a certain way to parent but more of a general way to do things in response to how a child is acting. While a child is growing up between the ages of 5-16 years old it is important to have set rules to follow and if the child is following them to reward them in some manner such as ice cream or a toy. Nevertheless, it is also important to be strict with these rules and if the child doesn’t follow them to punish them somehow such as timeout or take a toy or phone away. This shows the child that if you follow rules something good will happen but if you don’t something bad will happen, this is important because when that child gets a job later in life it is important to follow bosses’ orders or rules and if you don’t you could get fired. As a child gets older however it is better to let a child be more independent and have few rules to follow. At this stage in a child’s growth it is important to let them experience the real world and let them handle situations on their own because as they get older a parent will not be always be there to help them. I feel as though a combination of all three is the best way to parent a child as they grow up and adjust the style of parenting in certain situations.
I agree with your statement that children require a parenting style that is a blend of many styles. In my first impression post, I responded similarly that children shouldn’t be smothered by their helicopter parents, but it is important to have parents with an active concern for the child’s wellbeing. In terms of general outcomes like emotional health, behavior, development, or intelligence, parenting is least effective when they style follows one extreme.
As we later learned from the mini lecture, Diana Baumrind classified four parenting styles: authoritative, permissive, authoritarian, and uninvolved. Authoritativeness tends to be the best style, as its style is demanding and controlling while being accepting and responsive. At the extreme, uninvolved parents tend to raise children with more behavior issues and health issues. It shows that detachment can be detrimental to the development of a child, as you pointed out with jellyfish parents.
I also agree with your idea that the reward and punishment approach can be useful for parenting. To take this further, praising ability over effort is important. Research supports this because it is linked to higher levels of achievement, so in your situation, you may find it to be a good idea to reward a child with icecream if they excel in a soccer game or exam.
Overall, job well done!
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